Posted on December 04th, 2003 01:24 PM by admin

So you are sitting alone, it is Saturday night, and you have nothing to look forward to but the pizza delivery, a can of beer and the box. All the other people seem a world away, in the clubs, pubs and fashionable places. Everybody seems to have somebody - except you. And why? You ask yourself, perfectly ordinary, really nice guy, but relationships don't last, women dump on you more time than you can count, and you are left wondering, why do you even bother to care?

I can answer the last part, first. You bother because you are a nice guy, and because you want the perfectly ordinary things in life, a relationship, someone in your life who cares and you can care for. It is that simple, and unfortunately the crux of the problem. Have you ever noticed that all the girls you seem to like, always fall for the wrong types of guys - the not-nice ones? I know it seems that way, and no matter how nice you seem to be about it. You just know these girls that you like, are going to be hurt, and yet they still don't seem to notice you. Now it is time to do something about it.

First, let us do a quick check-list. Come up to a looking-glass, and assess your appearance. Are you freshly showered, clean and tidy? Check it. Are you dressed in clothing suitable for your look? Make sure you are. Now, before you run out of the door to find Ms Right, ask yourself a few questions. Firstly, what are you honestly looking for? Be realistic.

Next, where are you looking? If you are a quiet chap who loves to read or spend time on the computer, is it really a good idea to go to the nightclub to find your soul mate? Girls who go to night-spots regularly and enjoy drinking and the “high-life”, are not going to stop just because they have you. If you prefer parks, your soul-mate is not going to be in the disco. Think about where you are looking for your friend, because number one, for a relationship to last, that is what she is going to have to be.

Lastly, be happy with yourself. It really doesn't matter what you look like, or what you do for a living. What honestly counts is that you are happy in your skin. If you like who you are, then others will be attracted to that, and in time, one of those will be your life partner. Be a friend, be yourself, and your time will come. Meanwhile have fun with your life, it's too short to waste.

OK. Here we are. You are standing in front of the mirror, dressed up and trimmed in the best possible way, but it seems you are not going anywhere tonight! There is nowhere to go, for the women of your kind are sitting at their homes, and dreaming about guys like you. Ridiculous! There seems to be no chance to meet each other!

Well, fortunately, there are some ways to meet a nice, family-oriented woman. And the first reason why many men fail to do this, is because they pay primary attention to a woman's face and figure, when they should look for a personality to match their interests.

Relationships and marriages are only happy and successful if both partners are willing to work hard, keep set routines, have regular conferences before problems arise, take quality time together and time apart and above all show love and respect for one another. If you keep this in mind, you will never think of looking for a woman of your dream at a disco or in a bar. There certainly is a little chance to meet at a place like this, but very few chances that this relationship will continue.

Suppose you have met a woman you like. Great. But how can you verify she is the one you need, and, then, how can you keep her by your side?

Many marriages fail today because the people involved do not know how to show love for one another since they were brought up in a loveless relationship. If you follow the marriage tips based on information from couples I have known, through different groups, your rewards will be a happy marriage. Today we are opening a series of articles on how to achieve successful relationships and happy lifetime marriage. These are the basic tips to think over. In our following articles, we will look deeper into each of the items touched in this list.

Private Matters Should be Kept Private

Private matters like your sexual relationships, finances and anything else you deem private should be kept between you and your mate, only.

Whatever happens within the marriage should stay there and not be blabbed about at the workplace or bar. If your mate couldn't climax the night before don't make fun about it in public. That should remain between the two of you only.

Problems often arise if the wife earns more than the husband. He doesn't want people to think that he married her for her money, so it's best to keep financial matters as private as possible.

Financial Habits Can Make or Break a Marriage

Set up a budget and then try to stay within your budget. Put so much aside into a savings account, each month, even if it seems a measly amount. This gets you into the habit of saving and watching areas where you could economize even more.

Plan ahead for those necessary expenditures and emergencies. Review your strategy month by month along with your long term goals. Figure out ways of economizing on the small details, because those pennies really do add up.

Join Together in the Routine of the Marriage

Keep Your Separate Personalities

No one wants a yes man or woman. Both men and women are different and therefore should retain their own likes and dislikes. Just because the husband likes football, doesn't mean that the wife has to enjoy it and the reverse is true for the wife and her enjoyments which the husband can't stand, like perhaps sewing. But, show respect for your mate's interests and the time set for your mate to spend with friends. Always respect each other's belief systems. No two people think the exact same way.

Be Loyal and Honest With Each Other

If something happens, tell your mate outright and then try to work through the problem. There is nothing worse than hearing it second hand from a friend rather than from your mate directly.

Take time for each other and the family, instead of attending too many committee meetings out of the house.

If you like to drink, why not drink at home instead of down at the bar. It's cheaper and your mate will be happier knowing where you are. Perhaps bring your buddies home once in a while. Again both mates should check with the other to be sure there aren't other plans for that night.

Above All Be Considerate

Let your mate know if you are planning to bring friends home and not just walk in with them. The same thing for your children. Tell them to plan ahead and perhaps set one night a week preferably not the same night the bridge or drinking party is taking place so they can start organizing their lives as well.

When your mate is sick, try to be considerate. That means keeping the house quiet and helping with the clean meals and clean-up. Remember, when someone is sick, they are at their weakest moment and need positive energy to get well.

Take turns deciding what the entertainment will be like the movie or TV program.

Surprises Can Be Fun

Surprise your mate with a special evening once in a while. Arrange with a friend to take the kids for a sleep over but do make sure you reciprocate the favor at a later time. Make sure the house is super clean if you're planning a love nest time at home and have his favorite meal prepared. Set a romantic tone with candles, his favorite scent, wine and music. Remember this is his special night. Then sometime let him reciprocate by taking you out to your favorite restaurant. It's special, little surprises and treats like this, that spark a marriage and keep the romance alive. But remember, it doesn't have to be expensive, for it's the love and mutual respect that spark the marriage into a life commitment of fulfillment.

If you follow these simple marriage tips more than likely you will keep your marriage well tuned until “death does you part”. May the blessings of love be truly with you.

By Irina Timchenko
Russian Women Video Marriage Agency

Courtesy of: Irina Timchenko - Russian Women Video Marriage Agency

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